Dating rules are a set of guidelines or principles of some sort which, when complied with, give you a superior edge over other ladies because they accurately guide you in what you need to do to attract that man of your dreams. With these rules put in place, men treat you with nothing short of respect. The guidelines provide you with standards that make you an attainable goal and a substantial treasure suitable for any responsible man.
The thing about these dating rules is that they are relative, hence a good reason for discretion where these rules are concerned. Although they are laid down rules you may have to follow, never forget to be yourself. You shouldn’t become another person entirely just because you are following these rules. If for anything, these rules are here to guide you in areas of self-discipline, improvement, and development. They help you with the steps to take, the corrections you should make, and the red flags or mistakes you should avoid.
The Dating Rules are as follows;
Be sure you’re ready for a relationship.
This is something we often overlook, and we make no big deal out of. You honestly should ask yourself if you’re ready for a relationship and get a response! Again you would ask, readiness in what sense? Readiness in every sense of it! Physical, mental, emotional, financial, and even health-wise, be sure you want to do this. The plain truth is that relationships require commitment, so ensure you’re ready for a relationship first.
You know what they say about like charges attracting, right? Yes, that’s ultimately true, and the same applies to your romantic relationships too. Meeting places could be at conferences, sports centers, bars, offices or some other areas but wherever it could be, you should be approachable Dress properly, look good and smell nice. Put that beautiful smile always, and do what you love to do best.
Don’t make the first move.
Some people do not make a big deal out of this dating rule, and that’s fine. However, as I stated earlier, these rules are relative. I advise that you do not make the first move though, because that may make the guy in question feel like you’re desperate. The truth is if he’s interested, he’d take the initiative and make a move. Nobody wants a mummy’s boy for husband material; we want a grown-up man don’t we?
Don’t be caught staring.
When he catches you staring, that could be embarrassing, you know? I’m not saying you shouldn’t take glances, but be smart about it. Some people would look at you and make it so obvious that they are staring, and most people find that very offensive. You don’t want to put him off at that first instance right? Then don’t let him or even his friends catch you staring. They would eventually gist about it later. Just ensure that you appear approachable and leave the rest to him.
Handle date invitations reasonably.
I advise that you do not accept his first invitation for a date. It may make you look too eager. You should turn down the invitation politely and maybe come up with another excellent plan. Emphasis on politeness because you sure do not want to ruin everything. For subsequent invitations, allow him to suggest the places to go. He’s the one taking you out. The only exceptions are when he asks for your opinions, and even at that, let your choices be very reasonable. Don’t suggest expensive places or cheap places, either. Go for places with reasonable charges and excellent quality services.
Appreciate the little things he does. If he opens the door for you, smile. If he does anything, even when it feels like it is his responsibility, appreciate him. Call him, text him, chat him up, get him gifts, be creative in how you appreciate him. Outdo him in expressing gratitude always, and you would see him follow suit. An example is not just one way to lead; it is the ONLY way to lead.
Don’t meet regularly.
The idea is that you don’t want him to get too much of you, especially at the start of your relationship. So maybe at least twice a week would do. However, this should not stop you from communicating with him all week long. Ensure you speak with him as often as possible because this is a major build-up for your relationship. While communicating with him, ensure you do not talk too much too. Talk as little as possible because the more you talk, the more the chances are that you’d end up saying the things you shouldn’t say, which might make you look silly at times. You don’t want to look that way, right?
Never act like you’re in a rush to get married.
One thing you should never do is to bring up discussions about marriage first. Ensure that your actions are not even sending signals in that regard. Never give a man the slightest hint of how much you need him to propose to you. It never goes down well. Wait till he brings up the topic for discussion. However, after several months of dating and he doesn’t give a go-to signal on whether he wants to get married to you, leave him. You surely can’t till forever. Do not waste your time waiting and hoping he would propose someday.
Take care of yourself.
You need to also take good care of yourself. Ensure that you stay healthy, eat well, have fun times with your girlfriends. Don’t let your other relationships be affected because of your relationship with your man. Take up those courses, foster your career goals, businesses, jobs. Every man wants that beautiful, smart, and talented woman.
Show your affection.
There are several love languages and whichever way you can express them, always feel free to do so. Give remarks on his looks, his dressing, his achievements. Let him know you are proud of him. Be very supportive. Every man loves that type of woman. Be very thoughtful too.
Be involved only in a Mutual Relationship.
Your relationship has to be mutual; it mustn’t be from one end. If you see that your love is not reciprocated, that may be a red flag, and you should be very cautious. You may need to take bold steps to ask questions, but if that is not working out too, then he may not be Mr. Right. Don’t waste your precious time on someone who doesn’t love you or someone who mistreats you. Leave him alone and move on.
Be fun to be with.
Be that kind of person that takes a joke even if it’s personal. You could be a very serious type but be fun to be with also. Let your man always feel comfortable around you all the time. Welcome pillow fights, laugh hard together, watch Netflix together, create fun moments together. Just do your thing and be happy. You deserve happiness!
Don’t act out.
There would be little arguments here and there, but ensure that you do not always act out. Address situations that may seem out of hand calmly. Don’t let your emotions get out of control. Take the blame if you’re at fault and apologize. When you do this, he may do likewise, and this would strengthen your relationship.
Don’t move into your partner’s residence until you both are married.
One mistake many ladies make is moving into their partner’s apartment when they are yet to be married, it is termed as a trial marriage. There’s no such thing as that! You are either a Miss or Mrs and if you’re not married to him yet, you are still a miss. Don’t be deceived! This doesn’t hasten up the marriage process but instead slows it down. He’s got you, after all.
Have a life of your own. Be independent, at least to an extent. You may not have it all together but then try to be involved with something, a craft, a business, or a job. You are gifted, yes you! Don’t make your man feel like you’re a liability to him. Don’t forget that this is to the end that you both get married. Every man loves a hardworking lady, a very supportive one at that. One thing about a healthy marriage is that it is two givers coming together. Don’t be focused on the receiving end alone, but be a giver also.
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These dating rules summarize that You should never leave your date with the opinion that you are desperate to get married. Instead, let him know by your actions that you have a life of your own and you were doing pretty well before you met him. Never make him feel his burdens multiplied because he met you. Be classy, smart, and spontaneous. Don’t be too clingy and overly dependent; let him know that you’re everything he needs in a woman. You achieve all of these when you comply with these rules.